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In the time of Jesus, sex and sexuality was handled much more practically. Betrothal was early, marriage was early teens, grandchildren arrived when one was in their late twenties, and for many, death arrived in the thirties. Teen sex was the norm and a necessity. This was relativity unchanged for centuries. Today, puberty comes even earlier, the libido is intensively fed by society, semi-nudity is in the underwear ads in the morning paper and movies. Marriage is often, maybe usually put off until after college [age 22-25], or career establishment [age 25-35]. The libido doesn't turn off. Attitudes are different. Hooking up when I was in HS was primarily the pursuit of males after reluctant females. My observation is that it has changed. It's foolish to expect the libido to turn off until the middle 20s or later. Society is different now. Females are taught to be full fledged members of society, and while the percentage of males looking to hook up is probably the same, my observation of teens over the last 13 years is that the percentage of females has greatly increased. Some teens, both genders, are in "love", but many if not most are in ''lust''. Just as the males in HS 60 years ago scored and thought "who's next", so too do today’s teen females. I've identified a few I thought were predatory. They learn from experience, thankfully, and most become more judicious as they grow older, and get into the "significant other" mode until they are ready or in preparation for marriage to the "one". It's our God given human nature and free will in action. Just say no? Doesn't work well at all. Libido and societal pressure are trump. Over the years I've come to believe that incompatibility in one or more of Money, Sex or Children is/are the major cause of divorce. For some, living together is an eye opening experience that may cause avoidance of marriage problems. Some of course, do not learn, and have to try again, and again..... Our bodies, minds and societal custom seems to tell us it's OK to have
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